John Register failed to clear a hurdle as he trained for the Olympic Games—a move that led to a tragic accident and altered his life forever. He shifted his focus and embraced a “new normal mindset.” The decorated Persian Gulf War combat U.S. Army veteran world champion became a two-time Paralympic Games Silver Medalist, professional speaker, and global influencer.
Register “amputated his fears” and founded the U.S. Olympic Committee Paralympic Military Sports Program. He authored 10 Stories to Impact Any Leader: Journal Your Way to Leadership Success in Spring 2020 and works with business leaders to hurdle adversity, amputate fear, and embrace a new normal mindset to win life’s medals. The artificial leg he used to win the silver medal is displayed in the Olympic and Paralympic Museum in Colorado Springs, Colorado.
In this interview, John and Cindra discuss:
- His definition of the “New Normal Mindset”
- 3 ways to develop the “New Normal Mindset”
- How we can “amputate our fear”
- 10 Power Words to overcome any obstacle
- How we can each “hurdle” the adversity we experience
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Cindra Kamphoff: Welcome john register to the high-performance mindset podcast how are you doing today.
John Register: Cindra I’m fantastic, thank you for having me on I’m happy to share with your audience today appreciate everything that you are doing in this space to just to elevate excellence.
Cindra Kamphoff: Absolutely and I’m excited to talk with you after learning more about what you speak on and what you write on and your story, so thank you so much for joining us here today, we spoke at the winter conference, the national speaker’s association and I have been following your work for some time, so it was really fun to get to talk to you and so maybe just to get us started for the audience tell us a little bit about what you’re passionate about and what you’re doing right now.
John Register: You know the passion that I have is always about creating or getting people to understand that they have value.
John Register: And what I mean by that is the value towards their vision of what they desire to do what is the outcome that they are pushing themselves toward.
John Register: A lot of folks that I’ve found kind of in my keynote speaking have been looking on or chasing or following the dreams of someone else or they are you know, following societal dreams and trying to maybe that’s, the best thing I should do, or maybe this is the best thing to do.
John Register: But what would you, you want to do, and that is kind of what I love relish relishing in that moment is to get people to have the courage to commit to the vision, the dream, whatever it is that they were looking to do and I call it, you know you have to clear, you have to hurdle that that what’s in front of you, and so, then that’s kind of where my passion lies is get people to make that courageously.
Cindra Kamphoff: Yeah well john that’s powerful I recently read that only 7% of the population is visionary so made me think a lot about people really don’t know what they want and you’re right that they might follow what other people expect of them or want for them instead of what they really are excited about and passionate about.
John Register: I think that’s one of the reasons we’re having, I guess, some people call it the great resignation.
John Register: I think it’s just a great mind shift right if they’re shifting people are shifting their minds and they’re realizing that the work that they were doing for other individuals was not as satisfying as they once thought.
John Register: Some companies, not all companies, but some companies, they were trying to protect the bottom line when the transition when the pandemic first came on board and was really this This is beyond two weeks to be on three weeks or four weeks, and so what happened was all the people that they had on that they hired to say, these are the best people for the job started getting laid off because they’re trying to protect the bottom line, they began to operate with a scarcity mindset which gave space for those individuals who were at found themselves in that situation is to reevaluate.
John Register: If they really wanted to return to an organization like that, and so now, this is a great resignation, we can’t find work, as always say we can’t.
John Register: And all of a sudden, these individuals have chosen different paths and become entrepreneurs, they shifted gears they went a different way some got all the workforce, all together, and I think that’s, we have to consider.
John Register: The COP out, I believe, is saying that all these workers left the workplace, and now we don’t have it now, we can’t backfill positions.
John Register: That was always the case, even if every single person came back into the workplace, we’d still be millions of people be below the delta of what we need to actually fill all the job positions so it just it just spun up what we’re dealing with in the first place, a little bit faster right.
John Register: So, I think that’s what we have to really understand and not try to escape goat on to somebody else what we can’t do ourselves or refuse to do ourselves and that goes back again to having the courageous commitments to what our vision what our dreams are for companies for our families, whatever that we want to put in.
Cindra Kamphoff: Well, I know you personally have gotten some clarity on what exactly you want, and you’re have oddly obviously followed your passion john let’s back up a little bit and tell us about a little bit about your story, you know tell us about that what the experience was like for you specifically to like us lose your left leg due to a hurdle accident your high level athlete competing you know at the highest level, at that point, tell us what that experience was like for you and how that has led you to do this work today.
John Register: So, I usually try to tell people, especially when I’m teaching folks that want to become professional speakers inspirational speakers I’ll qualify for that is do what’s your story archetype you know what makes sense for the audience to hear, and for me when I began to do the exercise for myself my story archetype is a riches to rags to riches story Arc type that’s one of them, I can also have like this overcome the monster too, But the riches rags to riches is kind of what we start why because I was a world class athlete.
John Register: I ran track and field for the razorbacks I twice went to the Olympic trials was a four-time track and field all American.
I enlisted in the United States army to continue to run track and field, even though I had a degree in radio, TV program and production.
John Register: That will take me down to Mississippi to an entry level position which I forgot I didn’t want to do that; I want to continue to run track. The army had a world class athlete track and field program which allows a soldier athlete to train two to three years prior to the next Olympic Games.
John Register: In their discipline as long as their national governing body of sport says they can do it USA track and field news my national governing body of sport in GB said I was a Bonafede contender so I signed up for this program but, on the way to my training operation desert shield Desert Storm came up and I got called to serve and in the in the Gulf War came back without a scratch.
John Register: I went to run the high hurdles in a second Olympic trials, and I just didn’t have it, so I switched gears to the for the meter hurdles and in my fifth race ever qualified for those the trials. In 92 and I have my race, but when I was training for my third games, the great Edwin Moses was still coming on my little podcast things now he said you’re on the same trajectory I was on and, of course, he won you know the most wins of the anybody to hurdle.
John Register: That the Olympic Games, since I’m on the same trajectory I was he was on when I went across a hurdle, and I dislocated my knee I severed the artery upon the kneecap and seven days later, I went from world class athlete combat veteran on my way to officer candidate school to an amputee flat on my back with which way is up so life can change with us, with one wrong step, it was my wife Alice who poured into me said, you know what we’ll get through this together, just start the new normal and when she spoke those words she baseline my entire existence and I began to pick myself up and retool and find the people that surrounded me and got out of the military sort of working for the military and 26 months post my amputation.
John Register: After swimming for physical therapy, I swam in the Paralympic Games in 1996 in Atlanta so athletes running and jumping with artificial limbs had a leg made for running for years later won the Olympic silver medal in the long jump in Sydney Australia and then, after that, after I hung the Spikes up, I began working for the United States Olympic and Paralympic committee and built out what’s now become known as the Paralympic military sport Program.
John Register: Which turned into warrior games and turn into Prince Harry’s Invictus games and so that is kind of what I’ve been doing and as well as you know, speaking and training and teaching anybody else how to overcome the challenges that they may face in their lives.
Cindra Kamphoff: Wow well that’s a lot of challenges, you had to overcome. I was just actually speaking with the USA track and field athlete earlier this morning about you knows, like when you’re faced with an injury, you know and how difficult that can be I mean you went from being a world class athlete to like losing your leg tell us a bit about what that experience was like emotionally for you, at that moment.
Cindra Kamphoff: Because I think that’s really helpful for people to know like what actually you overcame you know to do everything else that you’ve done since then.
John Register: That’s great because most people think when I talk and myself included, until I had a revelation that I overcame the amputation of my left leg. So going through that whole transition, of the having the injury on the track.
John Register: I believe what is inside of us during our difficulty our time of testing is what comes out of us when we’re actually in the test.
John Register: We think we know who we might be, we think we know who we would be or like to be when a transitional moment happens, or when some type of trauma hits us.
John Register: But we really don’t until we actually get in that situation then what’s inside of us comes out now, we can learn from that experience afterwards, but in the moment when the heat is on whatever’s coming out that’s who we are, at that time.
John Register: And so, in my moment this is by eyewitness accounts, not for me because I wasn’t a pain, the first word out of my mouth when my leg snapped in half and was looking like the letter L the first word out of my mouth was hallelujah.
John Register: Why would that even come out of my mouth? Because I’ve been doing a lot of Bible studies and teaching, and it wasn’t just for show. It was something that was a part of my life, it wasn’t a go to church on Sunday type thing it was instilled in me and was a part of wanting to see everyone else around me elevate and pour into them and so that naturally just came out of me.
John Register: And I still don’t remember saying it, but I have been three or four you know soldiers that were around me say that it’s how did you how did you even do that I don’t have I have no recollection of it.
John Register: And so, I think that’s, the first thing with the audience is what is on the inside of you who are you surrounding yourself with.
John Register: When those types of testing actually happened, I had people who would not allow me to fail in that moment, even though I knew I wasn’t going to Olympic trials anymore my leg was looking crazy right I didn’t know, I was going to lose it at that time, but I knew that I couldn’t lift myself up and walk off of that track.
John Register: So, who’s around you to lift you up when you can’t even lift up yourself, when you have no power to do it on your own any longer, I think we found that out we’re finding it out and, at least in the United States about what happens to us when we I call losing oxygen out of our environment.
John Register: We lose oxygen, when we panic, we do crazy stuff, right? so what do we do when the when the pandemic first it we bought toilet paper because that was going to sell to call it right so those things, I think we have to really share with ourselves and then share with others what’s going on us and who around our lives we actually help us elevate during our time with testing.
Cindra Kamphoff: Yeah, that’s really powerful like what what’s in the inside comes out on the outside, when you’re experiencing the adversity and I think about you know there’s a model called the Kubler Ross model that kind of it’s like I don’t know if you’ve heard of it but it’s you know, when we go through the grieving process and there’s some research that athletes can go through the same process when they’re injured right like where they have denial and then depression and anger and then ultimately acceptance so I’m curious you know, for you what was that, like, for you in that moment.
John Register: Yeah, I went through all of it every night, I think through some phases faster. But I experienced every one of them, and some longer you know with there’s always wins when.
John Register: When we have everything is going kind of our direction our way and some type of trauma van or traumatic event happens that the thing is we’re not trying to overcome the adversity of that time what happens is, we have a desire to return and want to do it over again, we want to do over and we don’t get that.
John Register: And when we realize we don’t get that that comes the first bucket.
John Register: What I call the reckoning moment we don’t get back, we design have back, I want to get maybe if I just didn’t run that hurdle that day, maybe if I would have just you know, took the day off maybe if I on all these maybe if’s don’t get you to the place of where you actually are it’s just a hypothetical of what if it, the thing didn’t happen in the first place, but it has happened.
John Register: And so, it comes out like this in our everyday language today.
John Register: I just wish things we get back to normal if they just come back normal, I just be all right that’d be fine and that’s that cycle, we haven’t graduated from there, we just continue some traumatic happen on our everyday life, and I want, I just want to get it back to the way it used to be.
John Register: And that’s phase one yeah.
Cindra Kamphoff: John you know, one of the topics I talk about is grit right having passion for what you do and persevering through towards your goals and last year, we did a study, where we asked professional athletes, how they develop their grit and the thing that surprised me was 75% of them said it came from a significant adversity, so it was something like a parents divorce or their own season ending injury or I mean their own cancer that allowed them to persevere so it’s really interesting in the moment right?
Cindra Kamphoff: You can have all these emotions, but the first step is reckoning, you know, one of the things that you’ve been talking about for a super long time before we’ve been using this idea of like new normal right tell us tell us what the new normal mindset means to you.
John Register: Yeah, I got I got a little jaded with everybody out there.
John Register: Since somebody called me said, you need to embrace it right and then own it you own that you’re the kind of you’ve kind of founded it and I think why I was not really upset I think the reason I was kind of getting frustrated with it was because people were using it as a term of destination or a place where they wanted to be and could no longer get there, so the words were powerless when I have been using them as powerful so I’ll give you an example, we just had was talking about I wish them to get back to normal.
John Register: When we look at the terms of new and normal, People are using the term, I just wish things get back to normal, as the normality of things, but that’s not true at places gone it’s moved on.
John Register: Because you’re in this new reality right now you’re doing new things right, and the present state is people will say.
John Register: Well, I guess, this is just our new normal and they kind of throw their hands up like there’s nothing you can do about it I’m just guess we’re here we’re here. No that’s not it either right. So new the definition is no prior point of reference.
John Register: So, why would we then if new is no prior point of reference, why would we be using old thoughts old ideas old systems to put into a new bucket a new environment to get a different output.
John Register: It’s the definition of insanity.
Cindra Kamphoff: True.
John Register: But we did it we continue we just we’re trying to fill the gaps I’ve got to get people back in the Office now right I got to just got to come back with got to get back to the way it used to be when we when we should have learned something over the past two years.
John Register: A lot of companies we’re accelerating and did greater work they did their most they did their best work in the past two years, and now they want to bring everybody back in.
John Register: Why to go back to the way it used to be to have lower revenue I’m not sure I understand that so that’s can we get our head around that the second is the normal.
John Register: Normal then is the everyday typical occurrence of a thought or an action everyday typical currents without an accent So what are the rituals, we have in place that led us to a rhythm that elevate us to a rise and create the desired results that we’re looking for.
John Register: So, as we’re looking as us as our own lives, there is a pattern that we can follow, and if we get good with that pattern, it becomes that which is because ritualistic the rituals become the rhythm and we get into this rhythm and that’s what we call that normal normality right.
John Register: So that’s what we’re looking for there’s always going to be a normality of what we do every single day.
John Register: And that can be broken, as we have seen, but how fast, can you get back to that normality of putting those widgets in place my mother passed away December 9 and then I was devastated right I when I got back to the office I’m trying to feel, what do I do next, it was this little acronym that just came to my mind, called smear you got to smear for john.
John Register: Get out and get some exercise.
John Register: Now you need to educate yourself on what it is that you might need to learn do some research.
John Register: And then prepare for your event or prepare for the next day so smear so that gave me a ritual that I could do, and it turned into a rhythm.
John Register: That elevated me to arise that created the desired results that I was looking for, at the end because I couldn’t get it done myself, I just didn’t have it, so I got myself the ritual so that equals the new normal mindset which then is not the destination it’s only a plateau by which we grow so going back to your Olympic analogy, the Latin words for the Olympic model, our city as artists fortieth’s Latin words are not written the supportive of the word, so an English is translated into English as swifter higher stronger.
John Register: They’re not the superlative it’s not swift as high as the strongest the written with an er stimulating.
John Register: That we can be the swiftest today and be swift to tomorrow jump the highest day jump higher tomorrow if the heaviest weight today lifts heavier weight tomorrow.
John Register: And so, if that’s the mindset, then the new normal can never be a destination it’s on the plateau but which we grow if Olympians and Paralympians training for years from today, the way they’re training today they’ve already lost the gold medal.
John Register: So that’s what we have to look at, I think, as individuals and so that’s how I define the new normal mindset.
Cindra Kamphoff: I love it well; I think that the power of it is you’re right that so many people say I wish was the way it used to be right, but that’s impossible and I love the idea of like everyday occurrence of thoughts and actions building the routines to help you succeed.
Cindra Kamphoff: How might you tell us, and everyone listening, how do we use this new normal mindset every day to be the best version of ourselves.
John Register: I think it begins with the honest assessment and the honest assessment comes I called in the transitional moment, so we talked a little bit about the reckoning moment where we have we don’t get things back and when we realize that that’s our graduation from the reckoning moment that we don’t get it back so once I realized that now I’m free to go into the trans transformation moment the transition and that trans transformation a moment ends with a hurdle and ends with the jump.
John Register: And in the jump is a commitment, so I have a hurdle coach just met with them, you know, a few days ago and every he was my one of the best sorts of coaches, he still is one of the best critical in the in the country.
John Register: But all the hurdles that he taught me and all the things he taught me how to run hurdles with and putting that mindset together run the hurdles he never ran a race for me.
John Register: So, it’s up to the individual to run the hurdle to build the momentum to get the tools they need to actually attack.
John Register: The hurdle that’s in front of them, the individual, and so this is where I do my work because there’s so many people that deal with teams are great, there’s so many people that deal with the aftereffects and how to how to move afterwards I deal with right are you going to make the jump.
John Register: If you do if you don’t, you’re usually dealing with justification justifying to yourself and justifying to others, why you were not courageous enough to make the jump that you know you needed to make, to the vision that you need to have, so in that moment, to answer your question on how do we use this every day is the assessment begins with having your truth outweigh your fear, because when your truth outweighs your fear, you will commit to a courageous life. You’ll commit to courageous acts, but we usually don’t because we’re held back by two things.
John Register: Other people other people believe in, for us, what we can or cannot do, which is based on what they believe they could or could not do if they were in our situation and society, putting on the pressure than dictates of how we should be how we should live how we should act.
John Register: All those folks that were down there that that horrible shooting that my daughter my granddaughter was supposed to go to that school and you’ve all day Texas my son went to the text Southwest Texas junior college, they all came out, big brass big old cowboy hats on, and as soon as we found out that they didn’t go in and try to stop that cowboy hats we’re off.
John Register: Does that tell us something? Right? are we paying attention?
John Register: Or are we just going to what other people are doing other people are saying what society is dictating and then, once we understand that.
John Register: Is it our responsibility, no matter if we’re going to be ostracized or left behind or not be in a place of belonging, with those other people that either had to Hats off Hats off right if we go a different direction, do we have the courage to do it, and that’s the issue right or do we match love seth said underneath Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, read the first line of the words is the food, shelter, clothing and all that right underneath that is belonging.
John Register: Yes, and so, if I don’t feel as if I belong, I will tear stuff down to fit in just so I’m not ostracized so it’s really hard to make that commitment to jump that hurdle when you have other people.
John Register: I might not be invited to the picnic anymore, or I might be the talk of the Barber shop or beauty shop, how could you do that, how could you right, so that is the hard part we don’t want to feel as if we do not belong.
John Register: If we do make the jump and we do make the commitment and on our backs against the wall, we know we made a commitment, because we can’t get back the choice that we just made, I made the choice to amputate my leg, I cannot unmake that choice, once a doctor cuts my leg off.
Cindra Kamphoff: So, you cannot unmake the choice.
John Register: That’s when you made the commitment.
Cindra Kamphoff: So, would you say, these are the three steps, then, to have a normal mindset is the reckoning, is the first step and I’m hearing in that step is like acceptance of what’s happened right, and then the next one is transformation of you’re making the commitment to get over the hurdle, or whatever the hurdle is for you that that type of adversity right you’re making a commitment to move forward what’s the third step.
John Register: Acceptance, plus the transformation equals the new normal mindset, so now there’s work that you have to do inside of the norm mindset. Because just because you made the commitment doesn’t mean it’s going to be easy now made it over here.
John Register: No, we started, we started the rebirth. Because the rebirth is extremely hard those two phases, the jump and then the rebirth extremely hard, because now that you’ve amputated whatever that fear was that your backs against the wall, you have to move forward, you now have to unlearn I know you really can’t unlearn stuff, but you got to unlearn.
John Register: For our conversation today what it was already in that noodle of yours and begin to put a new inputs new information to get a different output going.
John Register: That normal normality of mindset has to move forward, what are the new rituals, you have to put in place, because we know through you know brain science that our star synapses lock in.
John Register: At a certain age and some type of trauma has to unlock them to actually get put in new inputs, for it, so if that’s the case, then what are the new inputs, that you have to put into your mindset.
John Register: For me it wasn’t you know when I was in the hospital better wasn’t looking at the Paralympic Games, I’m gonna be a great Paralympic athlete now no, it was standing I’m going to stand up a good leg for 15 seconds, can I stand up now for 30 seconds, it can I get to a minute without shaking him sit down.
John Register: Can I can I manipulate my wheelchair to a prosthetic appointment? How do I put on this prosthetic leg, how do I walk between these parallel bars and walk with balance and now balance from there to the four bar Walker took crutches to a cane to free walking free walk into swimming running to jumping?
John Register: To a Paralympic metal and process like six and a half years.
John Register: We want to right now just doesn’t make a commitment, I made a commitment I’m ready to go sign me up, I can be the coach now I can be the speaker I know you got you got some work to do and it takes time.
Cindra Kamphoff: One of the things I heard and the example that you just gave us was that you were every day choosing the new normal mindset, like every day moving past your obstacle, whatever that my mind have been standing for one minute without breaking and then the next day like you kept on moving past that hurdle, and I think how that’s so important because people stop growing.
Cindra Kamphoff: And I you know, think about the topic of the title of the podcast is having the high-performance mindset and I think that means moving towards your own future with courage and facing the obstacles, instead of like wishing it wasn’t there or ignoring the obstacles what other ways, do you besides like in your own life, what are the ways, do you see people using the new normal mindset and How has it helped them.
John Register: I see people using it, most recently in masterminds. And you know, look at Napoleon Hill and then the kind of the Andrew Carnegie and those that they always point back to actually saying the first mastermind was Jesus disciple that’s what they point back to that’s a different book that that he wrote, but when you look at masterminding right it’s people that have a like goals.
John Register: But not necessarily in the same industry, so they begin kind of pushing ideas against each other, to help them cover their blind spots of what they.
John Register: What they want they cannot see and then holding each other accountable for the next day one of the challenges I often will do with groups is at the end of our presentation, maybe I’m the closing speaker and I’ll say you learned a lot of information here today or yesterday or the course of our time together.
John Register: What’s one idea that you have that you know you need to implement, so you can’t and you’re not gonna get done before the end of the week so just don’t.
John Register: Just put that off the table so, but you can’t do one step towards it, and I believe you can do one step forward towards it tomorrow by 10 o’clock.
John Register: So, when you got to call somebody maybe whatever it is, you know, whatever the one step is that you can make towards it to begin the process.
John Register: Do it before 10 o’clock tomorrow, then I say who’s gonna hold you accountable and you do somebody always says I’m gonna hold myself accountable said no you’re not.
John Register: You’re not going to hold this up because something’s going to come on your plate it’s going to push it off the plate it’s it happens to me all the time.
John Register: So, you need an accountability partner.
John Register: And so, I haven’t found an accountability partner right in that room and I have not put their telephone number in your phone, this can be used as a phone so you’re not going to text them you’re not going to email them you’re going to pick up the phone and call them at 10 o’clock or whatever time zone is your or whatever time is it 10 o’clock is it you know but uh so it’s just an example so 10 o’clock you’re going to give them a call and ask the question how far to get on did you do, did you accomplish what it was, and you should see people squirm and back up on the commitments that they know they need to make.
John Register: Yeah, it is hard you just start going to I don’t know my boss is gonna think about that what’s what do I do it, I mean had to run this by you know that’s the right thing to do.
John Register: Do it get it done and I’m not saying that as a, as you know, preaching I’m saying that this is something I have to do, constantly myself like you’re saying with the hurdles it’s over and over again, a flight of hurdles is 10 hurdles.
John Register: And a hurdle race so it’s just not one time you’re doing it you’re doing over and over and then that set has done that race is done you go back, and you do another race. And you go back to do another race another flight attend, so that is you know.
John Register: That’s what I that’s what I say, and then it’s not easy it’s hard I’m doing a trend to a professional speaker class or the inspirational speaker only the inspirational speaker.
John Register: And you know the challenge becomes I see all these coaches out there that say they’re going to get you a class and that class, but they don’t get to an event, they got to get to a speech and US said, are they going to do that, for the rest of your life you’re going to do that work for you to get you this we’re going to teach you how to go get your get the classes or get your first speech, no, I will give you a roadmap that’s your work.
John Register: It’s not my word I know how to do this, I’ve done it, I have a breath of work, a certified speaking professional designation it’s say that done the work was only 17% of the people in the world have that designation.
John Register: What I’m going to do with that and say I’m going to teach you exactly how to do this and I don’t want anybody to come in there, I only want the serious phone I don’t have time to work with anybody else that’s just half stepping go somebody else.
John Register: Yeah, I want to get this real done you’re going to come here and you’re going to hit that that trend transformational moment and you’re going to make a decision whether or not you’re going to make this thing work and I’m not going to get you one I’m not gonna give you one speech. I’ll guarantee you that.
Cindra Kamphoff: Well, I think you’re onto something I think that we tend to look for the easy route many times and we let fear you know I think you said something really powerful like truly choosing truth over fear and I john I know, one of the things that you speak on is like how you amputated your fear of your disability and tell us a bit about like what did you learn about fear and what did you learn about yourself like going through that.
John Register: So, when I when I talk about the fear, I’m not saying that fear is not that we have a fight or flight right, so if there’s a snake in the news poisoned snake yeah you want to run you on that I’m not talking about that type of fear.
John Register: I’m talking about the mobilization of going towards a dream or an obstacle that you know that you need to do, let me be very specific about that or an opportunity that might be before you and you just don’t you don’t open the door for that opportunity to be there to discover I made not necessarily in fear, but of what I actually overcame came when I was about to bail out of a TedX I was invited to speak for because I said I had a new thought, a new idea I was like I don’t have anything.
John Register: And so, I was really about to call the curate and say this is like three days before the presentation, I was like I don’t got it, you know this is, I’m out, you know so sitting there talking to a friend of mine at a coffee shop and I was telling the story I’m like I don’t I don’t got it, you know, this is nothing.
John Register: just not gonna do my speech because the speech, even though it’s this decent it’s not the new thought that’s there it’s not all electrifying it’s not there yet it’s not the lightning in a bottle right.
John Register: And I realized I knew that and so yeah, I’m doing it, but I’m trying to hone I’m trying to find the voice down and then he said Well you know as I said to him, you know, he asked me a question about my amputation, he said, because you do to overcome that adversity and then I said, you know how to overcome the amputation my left leg, you know I’d have my leg back.
John Register: And he said oh, right, and that was it that was the first thread.
John Register: Wow That was the first thread, and I said there’s something there there’s something with that and what would it baked out to build what we kind of been talking about this whole time is that we have these moments, and we think what we’re overcoming is the actual event that happened in our lives.
John Register: And it’s not the event it’s our mindset around the event and how we achieved or did not achieve with the choices that we were making towards that event that happened in our lives, somebody’s been through a divorce somebody lost a parent somebody you know their pets die we’re on a boat with a woman who’s Pet just died and so they’re having an emotional experience, because the attachment that they had to that individual experience.
John Register: So not reliving that experience over and over that experience is gone it’s past.
John Register: Its past date my mother’s death is past, so what I’m dealing with now is the remnants of that and how my memory of that experience or the mental capacity I have has to move forward so what’s holding me back, I have to be honest with myself on some of those things and that’s where my truth comes into play, I can draw myself on my cell device and work, you know and not deal with it, I can find this is water in this Cup, but you know you get coffee you overdose on caffeine or you’re going to overcome overdose on you know some type of drug.
Cindra Kamphoff: Yeah.
John Register: You can do anything you can do anything to negate what it is that the truth is that you have to record and deal with and that’s why I say when your truth outweighs your fear. You’ll commit to the courageous life that is that is huge.
John Register: Because that again goes to the individual and that’s sometimes, we need help, we need somebody to bring that out of us, maybe professional help to help us get through those moments. To get to that other side to make that commitment and choice to ourselves.
Cindra Kamphoff: Thank you well, and you said something super powerful that I want to go back to, and you said, like it’s not it’s not the actual event it’s our mindset around the event, and I think how true, that is, no matter what we’re going through it’s like our own thoughts about the event how we’re creating meaning around the event, what are what are what’s our self-talk around the event right and I’m curious.
Cindra Kamphoff: I know when you’re speaking about overcoming obstacles, you have these 10 power words, and I was thinking that that might help the audience really think about how are they talking to themselves, how are they creating meaning around the event, whatever that hurdle is in their life right, it could be something related to growing their business, it could be something at work, it could be a hurdle related to their family right like what’s the best way that we should talk to ourselves, so that we can accept the hurdle because that’s what I heard as part of your new normal mindset is like accept the hurdle be willing to move towards the hurdle, and like you know it’s a transformation and continually doing that, throughout our lives.
John Register: Yeah, you know you don’t have these I try to put things in a little acronym that I can remember, and then sometimes they work for somebody else, maybe they do, maybe they don’t.
John Register: But it’s thought so that’s usually something that I am I’m struggling with and then there’s, you know as I’m doing my daily works or walks or the bike ride or swim.
John Register: You know I’ll get a vision of something and I’ll stop and I’ll just kind of write it down real quick and I’ll go back to what I’m doing and what happened in this case was people were throwing around the word resilience a lot with not really understanding that it’s a resilience is like a muscle right, you have to exercise, and if you don’t exercise it atrophy.
John Register: So, we have to hyper hypertrophy so you got to build a must you got to strengthen the muscle and one of the things that I developed these 10 power words.
John Register: That it’s these are my power words 10 you can get your own right you don’t have to just get your own words, the I don’t want people to miss them, the message, just because of these words I want them to think about what’s what drives me, you know what pushes me forward and so at this particular point in time, there were these 10 words that came, which were all on the word resilience.
John Register: And, and the first thing I noticed of these 10 leads because there’s 10 hurdles in a hurdle race.
John Register: So, we’ve got that and then the other thing is syndrome is when the starter calls everybody to start the announcer will say quiet for the start and embedded in those two words of the word resilience is the word silence.
John Register: So, hearing your own voice first being quiet getting yourself in a place, we can actually listen and hear so here’s the first one so resilience.
John Register: I have the three r’s the three R’s are we’ve talked about the ritual rhythm and rise right that was kind of three hours so that’s the first and then he is endurance so you have to make yourself ready for the long haul SS silence be silent remembrance inside the word reasons, the word silence Is ingenuity, can you be creative what’s your inventiveness what’s your imagination, then you listen and learn.
John Register: These no particular order either, but these are for me right I’ve got to listen and learn so when do I look inward and when do I get an outside voice to listen to actually hear what I need to I the next is intensity and he’d be powerful forceful with vigor not just lackadaisical and doing these things and I have to be engaged as to have it immerse yourself fully and totally in the process.
John Register: And it comes from the Arkansas razorbacks never yield that’s one of our mantras of never yielding there there’ll be times when you want to turn back, and you never be able to continue to press forward.
John Register: I call these sometimes plus one days, that’s what you’re going to do that your competitor won’t do on this day to get the competitive advantage over them, see his courage grow and grow in our character and what we commit to the courageous acts to our truth elevate and evolve, is the last ones so move you to a higher position or a higher plane evolve not be the same person that you were yesterday that you are today that you will become.
John Register: Tomorrow move to your new normal mindset so that’s kind of what helps me with my 10 words that are off the word resilience, you can get your own words, you do not have to use my 10 words.
John Register: You don’t need you don’t need 10 words, you can maybe it’s three for you, maybe it’s 12 for you, maybe it’s 15 maybe it’s eight I don’t know.
John Register: But there should be something that you can just draw upon that pushes you forward when you need that extra that gumption or that push that you need that grit that you need.
Cindra Kamphoff: Yeah, I think all those words are really powerful and I think about the importance of like what we’re telling ourselves shapes the way that we experience the situation or the world right and even pre planning some of these thoughts, when I when I face adversity, I’m going to tap into my three words whatever those three words might be if it’s endurance or silence or courage or evolve.
Cindra Kamphoff: I liked them all and I, like the importance of like choosing your own words to help you keep going. John, I know you have a book called 10 powerful stories to impact any leader tell us a bit about where we can find that book and where we can purchase it and tell us a little bit about the book too, so people can learn more about what you have written.
John Register: That’s funny that the book is hilarious to me because I was on a trip to Dubai and I was speaking for our United States Government, on behalf of our US Government.
John Register: And I guess the work I did was good it’s so I get a call from former Secretary of State Mike Pompeo and I’ve been with three other Secretaries of State before both administration’s you know.
John Register: And he says, I have a I have ours aid said, I have a dinner for all of the Charlotte affairs and the ambassador’s now they’re coming into Washington DC will be the Ben Franklin room.
John Register: We just got rid of our other speaker and we want you to become the speaker for the for the event, I said Yes, cool.
John Register: I was like I was amazed like who I displays like what I’m not gonna say it, but I was like blown away like holy cow. I will say it was a super bowl NFL chant coach champion that so that was one.
Cindra Kamphoff: That was pretty funny.
John Register: So, so I thought well what Why do, why do you want me to come in, because they wanted me to talk about coaching I was like I think that person would be a better person on coaching than me, and so what happened was I recognize pretty early that this was the beginning of coven we didn’t know what was going on at this point in time so just can’t take yourself back to there. But we didn’t know our ambassadors started to know, because their countries were really the people in this country, we’re really getting sick.
John Register: They were they were fallen out. And they were at samples were dying there and the rates were jumping really quickly right, so we had hadn’t hit the United States, yet.
John Register: But what had happened was it was in those smaller countries, and they were losing multiple people other populations and they didn’t know how to really manage that situation. So, what I did was I said you don’t need a story to tell you got to have some type of story to get your staff on board, who you are.
John Register: And so out of that was birth 10 power stories to impact any leader German your way to leadership success, and it was written only what the thought of, let me just give you 10 stories that I usually don’t tell in a keynote address.
John Register: The lessons I learned from it, and then I know there’s a thought that came to you as you read that you’ll quick little story.
John Register: That you can now let me teach you how to build a quick little story that’s you can go into your group and whatever that group is and share that story with the store that you came up with after you read the book right, so you should have after returning my stores, you should have 10 of your own stories.
John Register: And I taught you how to kind of put them into a bucket.
And now you can win the trauma happens, you can have those two you don’t need to call me to come in.
John Register: Had a great boss told me always work yourself, out of a job.
John Register: So yeah, I love to go to travel the world and do it, but I want you I don’t I don’t want to have to wait to get on the plane to go do it when you have a story right there that can get your people through.
John Register: So that’s why I wrote that book and it’s on kindle you can just find on kindle to empower stores and then later, you know by it’s like three bucks or something, it’s as easy we’re going to put into a paperback, we’re actually working on it right now I think we’re going to probably price it about $10 15 Oh well know something like that, and I think it’s not a novel folks it’s just it’s just a health book right just you get it it’s an easy read you just get it in you and you and you just follow the instructions.
John Register: So, but you know what I know when I whenever I offer that or have somebody say call me, no one usually does.
John Register: So, I just keep putting it out there, because we don’t take the jump we know we needed to make so that’s a that’s all I’ll say about that.
Cindra Kamphoff: Excellent wonderful and if people want to learn more about your speaking and the other things you offer tell us how we can follow, along with you and I know you have an awesome website so just tell us a little bit about that.
John Register: Well, thank you yeah, we’re gonna we’re gonna kind of low the website not really blow it up, so the website is very functional so if you’re like a meeting professional meeting planner that’s out there there’s a page dedicated just to you that shows you how you know kind of little bit what I do, and then we give you everything you need to make your event successful you don’t have to come back to me you just do it right, you can just make it happen.
John Register: And then there is for the media folks we have some media stuff that’s on there for you, so what are some questions that you might be good for me to for you to ask me or maybe I asked you, as we you know do our little podcast as well, the other stuff is just around there to kind of give testimony of you know who has used me in the past on the website, which is johnregister.com johnregister.com and if you go on there you’re going to get some video you’re going to get some you know some social proof some you know just whatever and just it’s only the it’s I’m not trying to sell on there to I’m trying to really be of service.
John Register: so that you can make a decision quickly if I’m the right person great if I’m not let me help you find the right person that’s I know a lot of speakers that are out there.
John Register: And then, that we do have a were just being in our coaching session I said I was trained the inspirational speaker there’s a huge difference, I think, between inspirational motivational speaker. Inspiration is the one that the person that breathes life into someone and you never need to come back to them again because you have life and you the motivational speakers more that you just kind of like the.
John Register: You know what I love Chinese food and I love you know Asian food, but usually after I eat it about three hours later I’m hungry again I got to go back to the source to get some more food so that’s kind of like the motivational speaker, which is needed it’s great that person is awesome but I’m just giving you the difference between the two I’m the one they’re like the car you jump into and you got to pop the clutch and get the car going, and then you got to do it every time we got to restart it the inspirational speakers, the one that comes from the word Inspiro to breathe life into and that’s what we’re doing we are breathing life into your business into your opportunities and so that’s the difference if you’re going to choose inspired communications and myself, we talked about the go forth and spy your world because go is your command fourth is your direction inspire is your vocation your because only you can do this work and world because it’s your sphere of influence.
Cindra Kamphoff: Awesome So if you want to learn more about becoming an inspirational speaker, you need to go to john registered calm and your book which you just mentioned can be found on Kindle 10 powerful stories or 10 power stories to impact any leader.
Cindra Kamphoff: John when I think about what I got from our conversation today, I appreciated your new normal mindset equation right like the reckoning plus, transformation, or you said acceptance plus kind of the commitment to moving past the obstacle is the new mindset and new normal mindset and I loved how the example that you gave of when you were in the in your in rehab and just continuing how you use the new normal mindset.
Cindra Kamphoff: I really liked how you said, like it’s not the actual event it’s the mindset around the event that creates our experiences and your 10 powerful words really help us better understand what we are thinking about related to our own hurdles in our life, so thank you so much for joining us I’m so grateful to learn more about your message, and thanks so much for impacting so many people today on this podcast what kind of final thoughts or advice would you have people who are listening.
John Register: You know thanks for the questions today I enjoyed being on with you and to hear from you and hear your thoughts and the way that you do your interviews I’m learning already, you know how you’re just gifting back you know come the words that I spoke, so I think that’s where I think you summarized everything very well.
John Register: And you know I have this inspirational cycle, and I believe that inspiration is the catalyst to motivation, which in turn causes actions lead us to transformational results and those results they’re inspire us, or they allow someone else that’s watching the process to catch their vision.
John Register: And so, for the audience that’s listening out there, remember that you are the inspiration, and the inspiration is the breath the life that goes into somebody and when somebody’s life is done like that the ripples will go out and so we’d have to worry about the ripples that come out, but every once in a while, an ECHO will come back.
John Register: And the ECHO moments, or what I measure our company’s success by it’s not about really the revenue dollars of revenue dollars will follow if I do everything right, the first time.
John Register: And so, the ECHO moments are when someone comes back was never maybe heard me speak and we’ll come back and say your speech changed my life because I heard it through somebody else and that course corrects me. To say I’m either doing it right or I need to make a course correction to get back on the past, so listen for your ECHO moments that are out there, people that are telling you that you are on the right path and continue to inspire your world.
Cindra Kamphoff: I love it, and thanks for the ECHO moments today and inspiring all of us, through your word, so thank you so much John.
John Register: Absolutely, thank you.